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Dark Yule Magic

Last week, I saw a ghost.

Not the rattling-chain variety, but the subtler kind. The kind that arrives at the winter solstice, when the year pauses and the light is at its weakest. I see them in the reflection of a dark windowpane. In a shadowed alleyway. In the whispered memory of things past. Each of them offers an invitation to peer into what Sheridan Le Fanu refers to as “a glass darkly” (a phrase borrowed from Corinthians).

It’s no accident that Christmas developed a tradition of reading ghost stories across many cultures. These late-night tales are meant to be told when the nights are long, and shadows hover just outside the firelight. Traditionally, the dark heart of winter has been a time for seeing what usually stays hidden. In the spirit of Dark Yule, I found myself thinking about A Christmas Carol this season, as I was visited by three ghosts of my own.

Take the ghost I saw last week. She was one of many I’ve seen this season. The first was in early December. I met the ghost of who I used to be: ambitious, overworked, and easily lost. I saw her for who she was, and who she needed to be to survive. Then I hugged her and set her free. I saw the ghost of Christmas present, too, in quieter endings—certain places and ways of thinking simply sealing themselves off, not with drama, but with a soft, unmistakable knowing. In her place is overwhelming gratitude for this beautiful life and the love I find I have in it—so much more than I thought I had in the dark days of the pandemic.

And I caught a glimpse of the ghost of what may yet be. Last week, she called to me unexpectedly at a local market. It was as if nobody saw her but me, and for a moment, time stood still. We spoke only briefly, and the content of that conversation is for me and her alone. But long after we parted, I knew I had experienced a memory from my future—what Patrick Harpur calls a daimonic moment—when time bends, and we connect with archetypal energies far beyond our everyday human experience.

On the shortest day of the year and the longest night, we peer into the darkness in search of light.

Peering into a Glass, Darkly

In Mexica tradition, priests used black obsidian mirrors to gaze at the sun. They would angle them toward the sun so that the light could pierce the dark stone. It appears like a pinprick of light, as if the sun has literally seared a hole into the dark mirror, even though it is only a reflection. The darkness, you see, was the only way the priests could safely gaze at the light. Darkness was not the enemy—it was the condition that made vision possible. I learned about this magical history from a lecture at a local brewery given by Kurly Tlapoyawa, an archaeologist, ethnohistorian, and host of the podcast Tales from Aztlantis.

The story behind the Mexica calendar and the winter solstice was powerful to me, as a Mestiza who is still learning about my roots. The use of obsidian as a mirror to see the sun feels deeply gothic and filled with gloomth. It echoes Sheridan Le Fanu’s In a Glass Darkly, where the daimonic never appears head-on, but only obliquely—through the uncanny, synchronicity, and the unexplainable. To see “in a glass darkly” is to accept that we can never gaze at the numinous directly. We see it out of the corner of our eye, in a strange sense of knowing, or by peering into the darkness—our psyches, our imaginal worlds, the stories that speak to us.

That is what storytelling does. It is the dark mirror that allows us to peer at things that would otherwise be invisible, whether in a holiday ghost story or in another kind of text altogether.

The daimonic always comes in sideways, as Harpur explains in many of his books. In order to experience the numinous, we must peer into the darkness: the monster under the bed, the skeletons in the closet, the ghosts on a moonlit road we’d rather avoid. The winter solstice—the longest night welcoming the return of the light—becomes an apt metaphor not just for shadow work, but for acknowledging that the world is much vaster than we can always perceive. Sooner or later, if a person wants to heal, they must dare to peer into a glass darkly and see what emerges.

Winter Solstice Liminality

This is Dark Yule Magic.

It is when you embrace the fallow period—the quietude and the slow return to longer days. It is a liminal time in which the shadows slowly recede, and with them, the heaviness of old selves and old stories, which we gladly commit to the Yule bonfire.

These are the moments when the dark mirror speaks, not of doom, but of hope. You never approach the numinous directly. You look through the obsidian mirror. And if you’re willing to stay with the darkness long enough—long enough to let the ghosts speak—you begin to see the light.

Wishing you a luminous Winter Solstice season, filled with the right kind of darkness—and light.

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Practical Magic Autumn

The air smells faintly of woodsmoke and spices, the sun brushes its soft fingers against trees showing off their red and orange leaves, and, somewhere in 90s New York City, Meg Ryan is buying a pumpkin, while I, in 2025 Albuquerque, NM, am also buying more festive gourds than I know what to do with. Last year, I wrote about the delights of Meg Ryan Fall—the sacred simple pleasures of cozy sweaters, corner coffee shops, and pumpkin-spice-fueled meet cutes. Basic? Absolutely. But that’s part of the charm—being unabashedly cheesy as an act of pure, unadulterated joy.

Shameless, lighthearted playfulness is its own kind of magic. 

This year, though, I’ve found myself leaning toward something a little darker, a little more whimsical: Practical Magic Autumn. Let’s be honest—I celebrate both at once—but when October arrives, I feel the pull of the liminal, that coy whisper of spooky season that invites me to revel in my witchiness.

The world feels heavy right now (for so, so many reasons), and as I often do when I’m overwhelmed, I retreat to my library for wisdom and healing. I find a strange comfort in spooky stories that don’t shy away from the shadows but show us how to live alongside them. I’ve also delighted in watching iconic horror movies to face my childhood fears of things that go bump in the night. These stories teach us how to integrate our shadows and banish the shades who try to hitch a ride home with us. To root ourselves in hope and healing, even in the midst of upheaval. To conjure joy and expansion, even as external forces make us feel small. And to face the scary thing under the bed so that we aren’t controlled by our terror of it.

Lately, I’ve been savoring the ritual of autumn decorating to chase away the darkness. Decorating feels especially delightful because I finally have a fireplace—its flickering glow now framed by pumpkins, amber leaves, and just the right touch of Halloween flair. My familiars (my cats, Smoke and Juniper) curl up on couches covered in jewel-toned throws, ready for scary movie night. My downtime is spent paging through old books, fussing over jars of herbs, reading tarot, and making impossible wishes to the moon—knowing full well that the moon was made for granting impossible wishes…when you least expect it.

With the sequel around the corner, I can’t help but feel the gentle thrill of Practical Magic even more this season. That film (and the novel it’s based on) did something rare—it made witchcraft feel both glamorous and deeply human. The Owens sisters were a mess, sure, but a glorious one: real women with real problems who also happened to be magical. Unlike their Charmed counterparts, chosen to battle the forces of darkness, the Owens women wrestled with the demons that follow you home—the ones born of grief, family curses, and love gone wrong. 

You know, normal life stuff. 

Their longings were achingly human—love, belonging, connection—and that’s what made their story so potent. It wasn’t about saving the world. It was about rescuing themselves and each other. It was about healing their wounds and finding their place in the world. The Owens women are magical not because of their witchcraft alone, but also because of the intentional energy and love they pour into nurturing meaningful relationships—sending letters, having the hard conversations, showing up when they’re needed.

A few weeks ago, I found myself channeling that same energy—making popcorn, pouring drinks, and settling in for an impromptu happy hour with my sisters and nieces. The candles in my fireplace glowed (okay, fine—LED candles, because safety first). Gold and orange leaves festooned my mantle and kitchen entryway, and a scattering of pumpkins—real, ceramic, glittered, and earthen—dotted every surface. Even my kitchen table was festooned with a vibrant red, gold, and orange tablecloth. 

The vibe? Cozy gothic enchantment.

My nieces spritzed on my perfume and paraded around in scarves raided from my closet while my sisters and I talked and plotted, laughed and commiserated. We snacked on popcorn and sipped whiskey and rosé while the girls drank rose lemonade. I am teaching my nieces how to add a little honey to things when life feels tart as unripe lemons. Whiskey fire to burn away the heaviness from one sister, a rosé to remind the other that joy can still bloom. What began as a “quick happy hour” became an evening of connection, laughter, and quiet magic.

And I thought: this is what a coven meeting really looks like!

Like the sisters in Practical Magic, we had come together, as we so often do, to stir the cauldron and cast spells. I mean, make dinner. I mean, midnight margaritas. Well, it really depends on the night.

Practical Magic has always lived in that sweet spot between cozy romance and gothic terror, between the normal and the strange. It reminds us that real magic isn’t found in spectacle, but in the ordinary—reading the signs in the world around us, trusting synchronicities and, occasionally, burying your sister’s ex in the backyard.

Hey, it happens. 

This fall, I’ve been practicing those small enchantments Practical Magic invites us to savor. Tending my rosemary and setting intentions over cinnamon-laced coffee. Gazing up at the moon to see what secrets she’s willing to divulge and mixing rose petals and heart’s desire into lemonade to soothe the soul. A little gentle alchemy never hurts.

If Meg Ryan Fall is about finding delight in the sacred ordinary of city life, Practical Magic Autumn is about coming home to yourself—to candlelight, to ritual, to dancing naked under the moon. It’s about the vibes: long hair, long skirts, and longer nights. Sweaters that feel like protection spells. Soups that taste like nourishing potions. Stiff drinks that act as truth serums. Thoughts that are invocations. Dreams so deep and real, they must surely be prophecy. 

Practical Magic Autumn is about the comfort of home when the world feels cold and heavy. It invites you to embrace your difference, even when it scares you, for that is the spark that makes you magical. This season of liminalities is a sacred time to make peace with your shadow so you can move through life whole, not divided. It’s about being in rhythm with nature and holding true to your own nature. It’s about being careful with your wishes--because they just might come true. At its heart, this story shows us that bone-deep belief, paired with embodied action, is the truest form of conjuring.

Practical Magic Autumn is an invitation to banish ghosts you’ve accidentally resurrected and make peace with the stories that haunt you.

It reminds us that even when darkness rises, there is always light worth reaching for.

So this season, may your heart(h) be warm, your light bright enough to chase away the shadows, and your magic filled with grounded hope and good intentions—and some midnight margaritas. 

And never forget, as Practical Magic teaches us, to “throw spilled salt over your left shoulder, keep rosemary by your garden gate, plant lavender for luck, and fall in love whenever you can.”

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On Twinkle Lights

I sometimes forget the light. When it is cold and dark and I am tired of being brave. I sometimes dwell on all the ugly tangles and hidden sneaky things when the moon is out—so bold and beautiful in her naked glory. Why must I see only the shadows she casts, rather than relish her bright light that sends hungry shades fleeing?

I sometimes forget that the darkest of winter isn’t the darkness of the soul. It’s my time to tend my roots and veins, my unfurled spine and dreams tucked between my ribcage—all the things that don’t need sun to grow, just my attention. So I make space. I spread out long and wide across my mat and relearn a body with so many stories packed inside it. What a relief to let them breathe and expand! I get big and bold in my daydreams, too, crossing continents and universes when I must stay put inside my apartment. Then I let my stories get louder, sweeping away the clouds with their piercing joy. We are allowed to know the ripe sweet burst of pleasure even when we’ve forgotten what it tastes like.

I sometimes forget to be the light. When it is so much easier to go dim and stop stoking the fires of my heart. But then I see tiny dots of hope in the darkest corners of a very dark year, reminders that when the earth seems dead, it is merely sleeping, gathering energy to bloom again in the spring. And there is always a spring.

Those little twinkle lights—so small and fragile—hardly anything at all. But enough to pierce the heavy cloak of midnight. Enough to poke holes in heavy thoughts and watch them sink to the bottom of my consciousness. Enough of them to light up a whole room—even just the one that refuses to be swallowed up in despair. Now that’s a worthy achievement.

They remind me that I can be a tiny spark of hope and not the wild bonfire I’m always expecting myself to be. I don’t have to keep feeding the dry-wooden fears that too-easily ignite and burn out of control.

I once forgot to make my home in the dark so that I may see the light. Now? I watch the setting sun. I feel the cold and silence creep in with the dusk. And I smile.

Time for twinkle lights and conjuring best done in in the velvet embrace of night.

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