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The Dark is Real. So is the Wonder.

It’s officially the Season of the Witch!

Naturally, this means I’ve been spending what I think is an entirely normal amount of time in the company of witches, vampires, ghosts, demons, supernatural detectives, and assorted creatures of the night. So basically, like I do every day, but it feels extra special because it’s HALLOWEEN!

Some people celebrate October with pumpkin spice, and sure, I’m not above a tasty PSL, or, better yet, a soothing herbal PS tea. But I often prefer something a little darker and a little richer to celebrate the season: stepping into a world where your next-door neighbor might be a werewolf, the charming little shop down the street might sell enchanted objects, and the strange door at the end of a dark alley might lead somewhere you really, really shouldn’t go.

In fact, I find a great deal of comfort in stories where ancestral curses are as real as our abilities to break them. Worlds where angels walk alongside us, as do demons. The hard part is telling which is which. Miracles can be found. For a price. As can any number of charms, wishes, or hexes. Places that blur the lines between the ordinary and the enchanted.

In other words, I’ve been indulging my love of urban fantasy.

This is the genre that made me fall in love with supernatural sleuths. It started with Jim Butcher’s Dresden Files, where Harry Dresden, Chicago’s resident wizard and private investigator, routinely finds himself tangled up in supernatural mysteries that are considerably more dangerous—and supernatural—than his clients initially let on. It also helped me cope with graduate school, where the real monsters were white supremacy and rigid perfectionism. And yeah, some genuine bloodsuckers. But I digress.

Lately, I’ve been revisiting old favorites like Tanya Huff’s Vicki Nelson novels, Simon R. Green’s Nightside series, Grimm, and Buffy the Vampire Slayer, while discovering new-to-me delights like Midnight, Texas and Sugar (which, admittedly, leans more sci-fi than fantasy). And, of course, I’ve indulged in my annual rewatching of Practical Magic and thoroughly enjoyed Practical Magic 2.

Invite all the characters from these supernatural tales to a Halloween monster bash, and you have a rather eclectic gathering of witches, monsters, vampires, detectives, wizards—and wizard detectives—and people with extremely complicated love lives.

In other words, excellent company.

The more time I spend in these worlds, the more I appreciate something peculiar about them: they make room for genuine darkness without surrendering the capacity for wonder.

And that, I think, is why I keep returning to them.

There Is Always More to the World

One of the things I love about urban fantasy is its insistence that the world we know—what we can see with the naked eye—is not necessarily the whole world.

Behind an ordinary door, beneath a familiar street, or just beyond the edges of respectable society, something extraordinary might be waiting. Sometimes it’s wonderful. Sometimes it’s horrifying. Or both. Sometimes it’s even a vampire who writes romance novels.

In Tanya Huff’s Blood Books, Vicki Nelson, a former homicide detective, investigates supernatural crimes with the help of Henry Fitzroy, a vampire who happens to write historical romance novels. Hey, even the undead need to make a living.

What I particularly love about this series is the way supernatural mysteries exist alongside the ordinary complications of being human. There are terrifying creatures and disturbing crimes, certainly, but also rent to pay, Vicki’s deteriorating eyesight, and a complicated love triangle that won’t resolve itself anytime soon.

Most importantly, the supernatural isn’t automatically evil. Sometimes the monster is the religious zealot who thinks it’s okay to hunt werewolves. And the werewolf—I’m sorry, I meant, Blutbad—next door is the one who helps you fight things that go bump in the night.

Grimm explores this same ambiguity through its own twist on classic fairy tales. In this series, an entire hidden society of supernatural beings lives beneath the surface of ordinary Portland, and Nick is a Grimm who must navigate the complicated business of protecting people from dangerous creatures while recognizing that not every supernatural being is a threat.

Ancient histories, inherited conflicts, and frightening transformations coexist with friendships, families, and neighborhood businesses. Appearances can be profoundly misleading, and the creatures we initially fear sometimes become the people we come to love most. And really, who wouldn’t want Monroe and Rosalee in their corner? And who doesn’t see them as legit couple goals?

What draws me to these stories isn’t simply the pleasure of discovering a hidden world. It’s the suggestion that reality might be considerably more complicated, mysterious, and alive than we’ve been taught to believe.

I like the idea that there is always more mystery just around the corner, always something that resists being neatly categorized or explained away. I’ve certainly had enough experiences in my life that defy the laws of conventional reality.

Of course, that also means we can’t assume that everything waiting beyond the familiar is friendly. That’s the value of these stories, too. There’s a reason we’re taught to fear the darkness. Not every mystery is an invitation, not every opportunity is as golden as it seems, and not every supernatural encounter is one we should welcome.

Seriously, I’ve walked down enough haunted streets to know that you really, truly shouldn’t knock on the door of a house with a sign that says “Do Not Enter.” I don’t care what those horror movie heroines do.

The Dark Is Real

Simon R. Green takes the hidden-world premise somewhere considerably darker in his Nightside novels. His supernatural detective, John Taylor, specializes in finding things—and people—that have gone missing in places where ordinary investigators would be wise not to venture. Concealed within London is a place where it’s always three in the morning, where all manner of beings walk the streets, and where nearly anything can be bought, though the price may be considerably higher than anyone anticipated.

Green’s Gideon Sable series offers another excursion into a fantastical London, populated by characters with names like Annie Anybody, a woman who can change her identity as needed; the Wild Card, who defies the laws of reality; and the Damned, who is… well, you get the idea.

I love the sheer imaginative extravagance of the Nightside. Its wonders are not necessarily safe, its monsters aren’t always obvious, and its darkness has a depth that resists easy reassurance that everything will turn out all right in the end.

There are genuinely terrifying things in the Nightside. But there are also luminous moments that remind us not all is lost. Or, if it is, John Taylor can find it for you. He’s good at that sort of thing.

Sure, it’s the Nightside. But isn’t that also life?

Life is full of light and dark. We are full of light and dark. Neither can be understood entirely without the other. Worse, to imagine we’ve somehow permanently banished the darkness—in ourselves or in our lives—only leaves space for it to grow quietly, insidiously, eagerly feeding in the shadows.

Or worse, we might find ourselves trapped in a Hallmark movie.

I joke.

Mostly.

The best supernatural stories understand this interplay between light and dark. Buffy the Vampire Slayer certainly did. Buffy and her friends face literal monsters, but the existence of vampires, demons, and an occasional apocalypse doesn’t make the ordinary difficulties of living any less important. Friendship, love, family, desire, heartbreak, bad decisions, and the occasional catastrophic date all continue, even when the end of the world is scheduled for Friday.

The show’s humor is part of its brilliance. Buffy and her friends can be gloriously irreverent in the face of terrifying things, but the jokes don’t make their losses or fear inconsequential. Instead, the humor heightens the stakes, making the darkness feel all the more real.

While Sugar belongs more comfortably to science fiction and detective noir, it offers another variation on this tension. Its mysteries expose some particularly ugly aspects of human behavior. Yet what I find most appealing about John Sugar is his extraordinary appreciation of humanity. He loves movies, finds beauty in ordinary experiences, and still sees something worthwhile in people who have fallen on hard times. He encounters plenty of darkness without allowing it to extinguish his affection for the world.

The same is true of Practical Magic, a story that remains especially dear to me. The Owens women inhabit a world shaped by ancestral curses, grief, violence, dangerous magic, and the consequences of choices made long before they were born. And yet theirs is also a world of sisters and aunts, romantic longing, family loyalty, glorious kitchens, beautiful houses, and midnight margaritas.

And fabulous wardrobes. We mustn’t overlook the fabulous wardrobes.

I find it hysterical that the original Practical Magic film was criticized for being all over the place tonally. It’s dark. It’s funny. It’s romantic. It’s witchy. It’s mysterious. It’s thrilling and scary. It’s heartbreaking, and it’s hopeful. Throw it all into the cauldron, give it a good stir, and you’ve got something that looks an awful lot like living.

Except maybe the part about burying your sister’s ex in the backyard. Unless it does.

I admit to nothing.

Moving on…

I think we sometimes want our stories, like our lives, to be more orderly than they really are. We want darkness to be something we can identify, defeat, and leave behind. We want the monster to look like a monster. We want the curse to have a simple solution. And we want reality to fit into a tiny box.

But life has a rather inconvenient—and delightful—habit of refusing to stay inside the boxes we construct for it.

And that’s partly what makes the unknown so frightening. We don’t know what’s waiting around the corner, what might emerge from the shadows, or whether opening that mysterious door will lead to something wonderful or something we’d rather never have encountered.

Darkness doesn’t always arrive with fangs, glowing eyes, or a dramatic musical cue. Sometimes it hides behind perfectly respectable appearances. Sometimes it takes the form of an inherited curse, a destructive pattern, or the harm people inflict while convinced they’re doing the right thing. And sometimes it lies not in the unfamiliar or the unknown, but in our fear of what we don’t understand—and our desire to control it.

But uncertainty works both ways. If we can’t know what dangers the future holds, we can’t know all its possibilities, either. The unknown may conceal something terrible, certainly. But it may also hold unexpected beauty, extraordinary encounters, and wonders beyond anything we could have imagined.

Allowing darkness to become the only thing we see has its own dangers. And frankly, a world where darkness gets the final word sounds terribly boring. That’s why I’ve never enjoyed grimdark fantasy. Who wants to inhabit a world where we already know that everything is going to be terrible? Where’s the mystery in that? Where’s the joy? And what’s the point of telling stories if we’ve already decided that nothing good can possibly happen?

So Is the Wonder

And that’s what makes these stories so interesting to me. Even in their darkest moments, they leave room for something else:

Wonder. Hope. Possibility.

Not necessarily the reassuring kind. Sometimes wonder is strange, unsettling, and difficult to distinguish from terror. It asks more of us than we expected, breaking us open until we can’t go back to our smaller way of being. This is the territory of awe and the sublime, where beauty and terror sometimes meet. We encounter something so vast, mysterious, or extraordinary that it exceeds our ability to comprehend it.

There is also the wonder of finding a friend in an unlikely creature, discovering that the world contains possibilities we hadn’t imagined, falling in love when love seems impossible, or stumbling upon a place where we might belong, as if some unseen force has been pulling us there all along.

That’s what makes the TV series Midnight, Texas so appealing to me (and why I've started reading the books). In a small town populated by vampires, witches, ghosts, and assorted supernatural outsiders, being unusual is practically a prerequisite for residency. Its inhabitants are secretive, wounded, occasionally dangerous, and frequently burdened by histories they’d rather forget.

And yet, together, they create something resembling home.

There’s loyalty, affection, unexpected tenderness, and the possibility of redemption. The darkness in their histories doesn’t have to define who they become. The series also has a wonderful sense of humor about the many forms evil can take. In the first season, all hell quite literally threatens to break loose. In the second, the residents face a sinister New Age spiritualist offering miraculous cures that seem far too good to be true.

Honestly, it’s difficult to say which is more frightening.

I find myself drawn to these fictional communities. They’re not utopias. Their inhabitants are frequently difficult, complicated, and far from innocent. Yet relationships form across differences that initially seem impossible to bridge. That’s what I love most about urban fantasy. Its worlds are haunted, dangerous, and full of mysteries, but they’re also crowded with life. Mundane dramas. Emotional turmoil. Unlikely alliances. Eccentric families. Complicated friendships.

And a good cup of coffee or a midnight margarita.

For all their fantastical elements, these stories of gods and monsters are all about what it means to be human. So give me the haunted streets, the dangerous magic, the impossible romances, the eccentric families, and the frightening creatures who turn out to be friends. Give me the strange doors that might lead somewhere wonderful—or a rabbit hole it’s best not to go down.

I’ll keep my wits about me.

And I’ll keep looking for wonder.

And isn’t that part of what makes Halloween so wonderful? We dress up as the things that frighten us, tell ghost stories, light candles, and invite the monsters to the party.

We make room for a little darkness, a little light, and a whole lot of play.

Happy Halloween, witches, wizards, and other magical beings! 🖤

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Let’s Get Spooky!

This post originally appeared in my October 2024 newsletter.

As I sit here writing this, it is a cozy fall evening, perhaps one of the first truly chilly nights of the season. The wind whistles and scatters dried red, yellow, and orange leaves, and shadows grow longer under the fading light.

Inside?

Autumn twinkle lights offer a soft glow to write by while old black-and-white horror movies play in the background. Whisigothic decor (and some Halloween decorations too!) fills my home with a sense of magic. The kettle whistles in the kitchen, and a lazy pumpkin-spice cloud wafts from my jack-o-lantern mug. And two sleek black cats snooze nearby.

Readers, we are the picture of spooky autumnal coziness.

That, however, was not the case just a few nights ago when I decided to go to my first haunted house. You see, I had been feeling brave. I’d spent the last few years watching iconic horror movies each October, finding again and again that they were never as scary as I’d imagined them to be. I’d been reading horror books, too, and enjoyed every minute of it. In fact, I found that the idea of these stories was often scarier to me than the actual story. While these terrible tales could be creepy or chilling or even downright terrifying, I always made my way through them all the better for having read or watched them.

All this to say that I felt VERY proud of myself for facing the things that once scared me and realizing that they weren’t all that scary. In fact, I was feeling downright smug about it!

Too smug, as it turned out.

It was with this deep sense of what I now know was overconfidence that I decided to try my first haunted house. I was offered free tickets, after all, and had a sister who was willing to brave the unknown with me.

The Universe was providing me with an opportunity to try something that might have been too much for me Once Upon a Time. I wasn’t such a big old scaredy cat anymore. Sure, the promo images for the event looked chilling, but I’d seen scarier images in some of the movies I’d watched. And I knew it wasn’t real, so…

How bad could it be?

Spoken like the protagonist in a horror movie right before she promises to spend the night in a haunted house. Nothing bad will happen if you stay in an old home that only a bunch of superstitious townsfolk think is haunted, right? The one where a bunch of people fifty years ago disappeared under mysterious circumstances, their bodies never found, right?!?! RIGHT?!?!?!?!

At any rate, I couldn’t back out after I invited my sister and told everyone I was going. I have a goth reputation to uphold, after all. Like any traumatic experience, much of it is now a blur. What I can tell you about that harrowing event was that a certain amount of (liquid) courage was required to enter that haunted house. But enter we did, into the swirling fog, where all manner of things lurked in the shadows.

There were screams (mine). Dark maze-like corridors to navigate. Panic (also mine). Ghosts and ghouls and all sorts of monsters to run from. Believe me when I tell you it was not for the faint of heart!

I learned something about myself that night: I AM STILL A SCAREDY CAT.

But I also can’t help myself. I will always be drawn to the gothic, the unknown, and terrifying things that go bump in the night. And that’s okay. Healthy, even.

After we made it through the terrifying haunted house and ran to the safety of the well-lit street, my sister and I both felt strangely cleansed. Okay, our hearts were still racing, and we were out of breath from dodging monsters and running through torture chambers. But we were also relaxed.

There was the rush of having faced something we’d both built up in our heads (hence the liquid courage), doing the thing that scared us, and coming out the other side (mostly) intact.

We survived!

It was truly a terrible delight to be frightened out of our wits and then leave it all at the door of the haunted house. There, in the moonlight and crisp air, was a fresh start and a clear mind.

That feeling is what makes me venture deeper into the world of horror, even as I am, and always will be, a scaredy cat. There’s something incredibly empowering about looking at the things that scare you—especially the ones that have followed you since childhood—and laying them to rest. They may never stop scaring you, but at least you know, when old ghosts stir in the night, you can face them and be the better for bringing them into the light.

That’s the power of horror stories: They shock us! They terrify us! They make us face our fears so we can put things into perspective, heal what needs to be healed, and exorcise the demons and spirits that have tried to hold us captive.

That’s the beauty of spooky season. It makes us eager to look at the things we normally confine to the shadows of our minds the rest of the year. Now, in the cozy warmth of my home, a large pumpkin on the kitchen table waiting to be carved, I feel brave again. Brave enough to consider going through that haunted house again next year.

Maybe.

As a special treat, in honor of spooky season, I’m offering up free copies of Hungry Business and Weep, Woman, Weep through Dia de Los Muertos. May they bring you chills, thrills, and delightful exorcisms!

Image of a dark and stormy night with a haunted house in the foreground.

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Summer Monsoons & Gothic Romances

This post originally appeared in my July/August 2024 newsletter.

You know you’re a desert woman when you get inordinately excited about thick clouds rolling across the sky on a late summer’s day, promising rain and blessed relief from the blistering heat of the day. Is there anything more exciting than thunder and lightning serenading you to sleep?

We’ve had better monsoons this season than in years past, which fills me (and my garden) with gratitude. I can see the clouds rolling in over the Sandia mountains as I write this. They are dark and heavy, which always means rain—and sometimes rainbows. 

I love the rains, you see, not just because they give the land much-needed moisture and make our desert summers more bearable, but because these storms provide the perfect symphony for one of my favorite pastimes: reading gothic novels late into the night. 

There’s nothing more satisfying than curling up in bed with a gothic romance while the window panes rattle, the thunder rumbles, and lightning flashes. The rain outside mirrors the angst on the page, which is fitting, given how often these pulpy tales rely on the pathetic fallacy to highlight the inner turmoil of their characters.

It’s always been cathartic to read books about darker aspects of human nature and all the difficult things Polite Society does not want to discuss or express. That’s what gothic romances do—they pop out heightened emotions, shine a light on things lurking in the dark corners of our minds and homes, and remind us that for all our belief that we are rational, enlightened beings, we are also ruled by desire, emotions, the mystic, and a myriad of other unseen forces that propel us forward in our lives. Juicy stuff!

I’ve been enjoying diving into Phyllis A. Whitney lately. Often considered the mother of American gothic romance, she actually prefers the term “romantic suspense.” Still, the works I’ve read so far have each had a decidedly supernatural twist in one way or another, so it’s hard not to think of her as a gothic writer. The reading is all the more enjoyable because I’ve collected quite a stash of her older paperbacks. The ones with the lurid covers, naturally. Those covers somehow make the stories better.

As I savor these books while the rain and wind sing their wild song outside my door, I feel a deep connection to humanity, to the parts of us that are always striving, longing, and searching for more. A good gothic novel, ideally read during a dark and stormy night, reminds us that the world is full of strange and wonderful things and that even the most mundane of settings—domesticity—can be full of intrigue and passion.

They serve as a promise that even if our lives seem utterly ordinary, there is always an interesting plot to follow if we tune into the magic all around us. At the very least, the make us appreciate a good storm!

Image of a gathering storm.

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Weep, Woman, Weep eBook Release!

I am beyond excited to share my latest ebook release! Weep, Woman, Weep, available for only $2.99, is the first of many stories set in the mythical town of Sueño, New Mexico, where magic is real and the desert holds more secrets and enchantments than anyone can imagine.

This gothic fairytale, based on the Legend of La Llorona, has a special place in my heart because it not only represents my full transition into writing fiction but also because it deals with the Weeping Woman, a figure who installs fear in the hearts of most Hispanic and Latinx children. (Don’t worry, I haven’t left non-fiction behind—I’m just now more established in fiction as well!) I grew up hearing frightening tales of the woman who drowned her children in a fit of rage and then threw herself into the Rio Grande after them once she realized what a terrible crime she committed. It is said that she now roams the riverbanks weeping and looking for her lost children. Of course, the danger is when she mistakes you for one of her children and takes you down to the bottom of the river with her. Needless to say, she inspired many a sleepless night when I was younger—okay, and sometimes now!

There are so many different versions of the Weeping Woman legend, some dating back to the Aztecs and early colonization of Mexico, which you can read more about here. These are stories about the trauma of colonization, toxic patriarchy, and toxic matriarchy. Some are even about reclaiming our pre-colonized identities by framing La Llorona as a victim trying to make things right in her own way.

As you’ll see in Weep, Woman, Weep, I’ve offered my own spin on the classic urban legend. In my story, La Llorona isn’t quite so sympathetic, even if we can understand the terrible circumstances that lead her to her doom. As Mercy, the heroine of the story says, you can’t always help what happens to you, but you can choose not to pass it on. It’s the passing on of trauma that makes La Llorona a dark archetype. In my experience, there’s a twisted part of this spirit that doesn’t want anyone moving on from the violence of our collective past. She has suffered terribly, so we must suffer, too.

All I’m saying is that the night before I made this book available for preorder, I had a terrible nightmare about La Llorona. She came out of a dark swamp in the middle of a haunted forest and tried to rip me to pieces. It was clear she didn’t want me telling this story and exposing her for the bitter spirit that she is. She clawed and raged and did everything she could to rid this manuscript from my hands. In all honesty, I’m used to dreams like this—she’s been haunting me for some time. And she gets particularly angry whenever I’m doing something that brings me joy and helps me heal my own complicated relationship with my mixed-cultural heritage.

I woke up in a cold sweat but felt strangely good. La Llorona didn’t like that I dragged this dark ancestral secret into the light, so…I must be on the right track. But that’s bruja life for you—so much happing in the dream world, so much of it affecting our day-in, day-out. Just another day of breaking the chains of ancestral trauma.

Weep, Woman, Weep is particularly unique because it centers on the New Mexican mestiza experience of ancestral hauntings and the working through of toxic cultural histories. In my experience, if we don’t directly confront the traumas of our ancestral past, then we end up perpetuating those same traumas on ourselves and our communities, sometimes in ways so subtle that we are barely even aware that we are doing it. But, since this is a gothic tale, these horrors aren't so subtle.

If you are interested in learning more about ancestral hauntings and breaking the chains of generational trauma, check out my conversation with That Witch Life. And if you’re wanting to know more about my other fiction, as well as my creative process when it comes to writing stories about the ordinary gothic, check out my interview with C.M. Rosens on the Eldritch Girl podcast earlier in the year.

In the meantime, pour yourself a cup of tea, snuggle under your favorite knit blanket, and get ready to enter a world of everyday magic and the ordinary gothic. Just make sure to keep the lights on.

Advance Praise

"This is a beautifully written, affirming and emotionally rich sort of story...There’s a lot of emotional truth here, and I think anyone who has ever struggled to find their place in the world will find it a resonant read."

~ Nimue Brown (read the full review here)

“If like me you’re a fan of the unusual or gothic and haunting reads this is one to try. With a strong voice, atmospheric creepiness and powerful storytelling, it’s one to enjoy as the nights draw in and we head towards my one of my favourite times of year, Halloween.”

~ Kate Kenzie Writes (read the full review here)

Read more reviews on Goodreads and Amazon!

From the Back Cover

A compelling gothic fairytale by bruja and award-winning writer Maria DeBlassie.

The women of Sueño, New Mexico don’t know how to live a life without sorrows. That’s La Llorona’s doing. She roams the waterways looking for the next generation of girls to baptize, filling them with more tears than any woman should have to hold. And there’s not much they can do about the Weeping Woman except to avoid walking along the riverbank at night and to try to keep their sadness in check. That’s what attracts her to them: the pain and heartache that gets passed down from one generation of women to the next.

Mercy knows this, probably better than anyone. She lost her best friend to La Llorona and almost found a watery grave herself. But she survived. Only she didn’t come back quite right and she knows La Llorona won’t be satisfied until she drags the one soul that got away back to the bottom of the river.

In a battle for her life, Mercy fights to break the chains of generational trauma and reclaim her soul free from ancestral hauntings by turning to the only things that she knows can save her: plant medicine, pulp books, and the promise of a love so strong not even La Llorona can stop it from happening. What unfolds is a stunning tale of one woman’s journey into magic, healing, and rebirth.

CW: assault, domestic violence, racism, colorism

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Reading Holiday Ghost Stories...with a Christmas Spirit Chaser

Okay, okay, so November is usually the month I celebrate the sacred simple pleasure of reading and all-around cozy living with food and drink pairings to accompany of few hours spent with books….but then the month got away from me, so this year’s musings are a teensy bit later than usual. But that’s what happens when you’re enjoying life and readings so many wonderful books!

I might be a month late on this post, but the contents are in perfect accord with the spirit of the season! This year, I’m writing about ghost stories and scary tales that help us face our fears and confront the dark side of humanity. Why? We can’t have light without facing the darkness. That’s the price of magic.

The Tradition of Reading Ghost Stories at Christmas

Last year, I read about the old tradition of tellings ghost stories on Christmas Eve and, in fact, all Christmas season. I love the idea, especially since my heart always longs for the chills and thrills that only seem acceptable to celebrate during Halloween season, which, in all honesty, I try to stretch out as long as possible. You’ve heard of Christmas in July? Well, for me, Gothic season is September through November. Now, thanks to learning about this old storytelling tradition, I can celebrate all things spooky through December too.

To me, the nights of Autumn Equinox that then ripen into the Winter Solstice are prime times to sink into the magic and catharsis of the darker side of life. Seriously, is there anything cozier than immersing yourself in a spooky story on a cold, dark night with only the firelight to keep you warm and hold the darkness at bay? Be still my pagan heart! And yeah, full disclosure, I also spend a good part of spring and summer reading spooky stories because that’s just who I am. Give me a good summer monsoon with thunder and lightning to read Gothic romances by and I am a happy woman. All the same, there’s still something deliciously cozy about reading supernatural tales in the heart of winter.

Ghost Stories to Read by Firelight—& Twinkle Lights

When the semester is done and my home is bursting with twinkle lights and a festive tree that can only be described as “Christmas explosion,” I enjoy taking an afternoon to read by twinkle lights or firelight—or both! I put on a pot of tea, snuggle under one of my knit blankets on the couch, and sink into the healing power of stories.

Prior to learning about the Christmas tradition of reading ghost stories, I’d come to save my subscription of Occult Detective Quarterly for a quiet winter’s day when I could enjoy the variety of chills and thrills it always offers. There’s nothing like a good ghost story—unless you throw in a good paranormal investigator to guide you through the realm of the unknown. In the same vein, I cannot wait to dive into Ghostly Clients and Demonic Culprits: The Roots of Occult Detective Fiction.

If you’re wanting a more traditional read such as Dickens’s A Christmas Carol, try The Valancourt Book of Victorian Christmas Ghost Stories or, if you aren’t particular about Christmas- supernatural tales, Ghostly Tales: Spine-Chilling Stories of the Victorian Age. They are both fantastic collections of some of the most iconic ghost stories and Gothic writers. There are too many ghost story anthologies that I love to name them all, so check out my teaser photo below of the Christmas Spirit for a few more book recommendations.

As much as I love reading, sometimes, after a long term of grading papers, my eyes hurt and I literally can’t take in the written word. That’s why I am so completely grateful for audiobooks and podcasts. My current spooky favorite is On a Dark, Cold Night, a podcast that features the original work, both in writing and music, of Kristen Zaza. It’s eerily beautiful! Want something a little over-the-top? Try Relic Radio’s The Horror, a podcast dedicated to old-time radio performances of classic scary stories. Both are perfect for a quiet night at home or a laid back holiday crafting day.

The Christmas Spirit…Cocktail

So you’ve got your stash of scary stories. You’ve got your twinkle lights and a crackling fire. You have a knit blanket and a cozy spot to tuck into. You might even have the perfect pair of pajamas to dawn and a black cat familiar to snuggle close for when your story gets a little too scary…okay, maybe that last part is about me. I do love a good ghost story, but I am also easily scared. What can I say? I’m a conundrum. A conundrum with a black cat to hold my hand through the darker parts of a story, luckily. In fact, the only thing that would make this scene anymore perfect would be a holiday drink to console, comfort, and fortify as you turn the next page. So what’s a bruja to do?

Last year, I wrote about one of my absolute favorite genres, all things Occult Detective, and whipped up a cocktail for it. Let’s face it, monster hunters are less tea and sympathy and cakes and more fire and brimstone with a whiskey back. This season of ghosts stories seems equally in need of a fortifying drink. I knew it needed to be something that conjured the warmth of the fireside with the enjoyable chills and thrills of a well-told Gothic tale. The plan was to call it The Ghost Story, but it didn’t quite evoke the comfort and warmth of telling supernatural stories during the holidays, something altogether more comforting and soothing, I’m finding, than the reading them during Halloween season. No, what we needed was a little festive flare.

Enter The Christmas Spirit. Yeah, I went there! And let me tell you, this drink tops anything Hallmark can do. It’s all the pagan festivity without the saccharine overdose of CHRISTmas. It’s warming, spicy, with a little kick at the end that makes us appreciate the twists and turns of a well-told tale. I used an orange liquor (see below) that was orange-peel forward, so as to get the pop of bright holiday flavor, minus overly-sweet taste of more traditional orange flavoring. I added some cherry bitters to round out the sense of a cozy winter’s evening at home, and conjure the pleasure of rich Christmas ‘s fruity flavors. Then the dash of smoked chili bitters to evoke the sharp catharsis of a dark story’s end. Add ice and you’ve got the makings of a perfect ghost-story chaser. All you need is bourbon to round things out. It’s enough to warm your heart, comfort your soul, and brace you for the inevitable spine-tingling goodness that is a good ghost story.

If a glass of courage isn’t your cup of tea, then consider trying…well…a cup of tea. Try the smokey lapsang souchong (my perennial favorite) for an afternoon of reading or a cup of mint chocolate rooibos for a mellow evening’s storytelling—both of which can be found at NM Tea Co. And if you need a little something more to get you through that next page, read on for how to make The Christmas Spirit.

Ingredients:

2 oz. bourbon

.75 oz orange liquor, preferably one with an orange peel-forward flavor

5 drops cherry bitters

1-2 drops smoked chili bitters

ice

maraschino cherry and orange peel for garnish (optional)

Directions:

Combine all liquid ingredients in a tumbler glass and stir. Add ice and stir again. Garish with cherry and orange peel. Makes one, so whip up a few more: one for someone to cuddle with as you read your stories and another for any friendly spectral visitors who happen by (the unfriendly ones can just move along). Enjoy!

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The Ghosts We Carry...& How to Banish Them

Have you ever noticed how in haunted house stories or an occult detective tale, there’s always an object that keeps a spirit anchored to a place? It could be a keepsake from when the ghost was a living being or a terrible artifact use to summon darker entities. Sometimes it’s a whole room or house, the energy of the people who have lived in it soaking into the very walls. Other times it’s the memory of a horrific incident that has bled into the earth.

In order to banish the ghost, of course, we have to destroy the object—set it on fire, break it, or, to be less dramatic, let it go or move on from it. Move out of the haunted house. Contain the dark occult artifact that can’t be destroyed so that no one will find it (until the inevitable sequel, of course….this is dramatic fiction after all!). These stories remind us, in one way or another, that the things we carry with us absorb the energy of our experiences. And that, sometimes, the only way we can move forward is to let those objects go. Otherwise, we keep that old energy—sometimes toxic energy—around and get stuck, finding ourselves in a time loop of the same draining experiences that first tainted the objects in question.

The Ghosts We Carry

Take, for instance, the story of The Sad Birthday Dress. It goes like this: There once was a woman who wanted to feel beautiful. All day long she was asked to be nothing but a talking head. But this woman knew she had a heart and hips and a juicy center. So she bought herself a dress to remind herself that she could be a whole person and not just a shriveled head sitting in someone’s cabinet of curiosities. And what a dress it was! It was stunning, with finely spun organic lilac cotton and loud bouncy yellow and white polka dots that told her that she was allowed to have color in her life—that she was allowed to be of color, no need to pass as another kind of pale specter. The skirt was flouncy and feminine and begged to be flipped up for illicit romance or at least a lively dance.

It was the perfect birthday dress. So she did what any woman who wanted to feel alive did—she wore it out and ate cake and drank champagne and danced until the weight of the pale city bore down on her and her loud pretty dress didn’t make her feel pretty anymore. Just sad. Unspeakably so. Because, she realized, this dress didn’t make her feel pretty. It only reminded her that she lived in a place that didn’t want her to be a flesh and blood woman. A city that was uncomfortable with her long wild hair and her rounded hips and the way the bodice of her dress clung to her breasts. She knew shame in that dress. And a sadness that welled up inside her until it became heartbreak. That heartbreak spread from her body and into the dress as surely as the bubbly drink had spread through her body only moments before.

The woman learned a hard lesson that night: A dress couldn’t fix a city that treated her like a brown stain on a white shirt. And cake couldn’t disguise the fact that there was no sweetness for her there. Only loneliness and a bone-deep cold. The solution was to leave in search of warmer hands and beating hearts.

Eventually, the dress came off. But the heartbreak stayed. And every time the woman tried to wear her I Am Beautiful Dress, she inevitably took it off and rehung in her closet, until one day she stopped trying to wear it all together. It moved to the back of her closet, limp and half-forgotten, like a mediocre date or half-baked wish. It was no longer her I Am Beautiful Dress. It was stained with the experience of that night, which is how it became The Sad Birthday Dress.

Years later, when the woman had figured how to be a breathing, living woman and not someone else’s curiosity, she pulled the dress from her closet and her heart broke all over again. She knew there was no reclaiming the original power of the beautiful bouncy fabric. Of cake and champagne and moonlight. In the dress, she saw the pain of her past welling up inside of her. Its presence was like a ghost reminding her of all the broken things she could never fix. Of the hopeless realization that the thing she wanted—thought she wanted—wasn’t for her and, in fact, had never existed at all. She had been chasing phantoms and, in the process, almost become one herself.

So she packed it up and gave it away in the hopes that it might become what it was meant to be—that I Am Beautiful Dress—for someone else who was ready to pay the price to reclaim that joy in the way she hadn’t been when she had first purchased it. The weight of that terrible time lifted from her shoulders and the energy in her home felt lighter.

Now the woman has a closet full of I Am Beautiful Dresses. They are loud. And they sparkle. And they have hems ready to be tossed above the knee for dancing and more dancing and things that would make you blush for me to write. And they all radiate joy. All because she let go of the thing that was holding her back. All because she chose to feel the pain of the past and let it go. All because she chose to be a loud woman with a beating heart in a sun-kissed land and not a phantom shade.

Banishing Ghosts

Lovely little story, isn’t it? And it’s all true. I once had an I Am Beautiful Dress that became The Sad Birthday Dress. And when I gave it away, I was giving myself permission to be more than that sad story. I could learn from my past and create space for joy in my present. The truth is, we all have a proverbial Sad Birthday Dress or something that was once a profound piece of armor in our lives that became stained by experience. Other times, we change—becoming someone that certain objects no longer feel attached to, can no longer nourish. And in order to keep growing, transforming, evolving, we must let them go. If we don’t, what once was beautiful or nourishing becomes toxic. The spirit that won’t move on becomes the ghost that terrorizes the living.

Having recently completed a massive house cleansing—saying goodbye to old ghosts and old selves—I found myself thinking about one of my pieces from Everyday Enchantments, “Letting Go of Past Lives, “ about the things you hold on to even when you are ready to let go of the person you used to be. It can be scary to let go of the past because, as stagnant as it can make us, it’s also familiar and comforting. That’s why we hold on to so much unnecessary stuff. It keeps us feeling safe—but it also keeps us stuck. In the end, it’s better to let go and know that you are creating space for new, positive vibes to enter your life (but not necessarily more stuff!).

The first part of banishing ghosts or old selves? Let go of the objects they are attached to. Say goodbye to things that don’t bring you joy or that you haven’t used in over a year. Be conscious of the energy you want in your home and life. Then be ruthless about protecting it—get rid of anything that doesn’t contribute to your overall sense of well-being. Ghosts hide behind sentiment and guilt to keep you trapped under their spell. Low-level spirits are a lot like low-level people: They want you to feel as trapped and miserable as they are, so they’ll do anything to stay in your life. Best to see them for what they are and move on.

The second part of ghostbusting? Let go of the troubling energy you’ve been holding onto psychically. That last one will take a little more time, but letting go of the object that keeps constellating that energy will go a long way to dispersing its psychic impact. Give yourself permission to heal and move on from sad or seemingly unfinished histories.

The rest will follow.

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