This time of year is always full to bursting with new year's resolutions--most of them overwhelming and along the lines of do more, be more, work harder, push harder in order to feel like we are Living Well or Growing.
This is probably why most of these resolutions get tossed out the window by the end of January. They're too much pressure! I can't just eat mung beans and green smoothies morning, noon, and night or pump iron two hours a day to prove my commitment to my health, nor can I glue myself to my writing desk or force myself fill every bit of free time I have in an effort to nourish my intellectual growth.
In fact, I'm convinced that these goals are as detrimental to us as eating fast food, never exercising, and giving up on learning new things in our day to day lives. Why? Because they don't allow us to truly find the fullest expression of ourselves but merely perform our desire for change to others. And in performance lies pressure--we want to show the world that we can be the best of the best, whatever that means to each of us individually.
As I've been mulling this over the past few weeks, I've decided to shape my own new year's resolution on this simple concept: Living Soulfully. This ephemeral idea cannot be measured in terms of how many hours spent at the gym nor how many words I commit to a page, but in how I feel when I wake up in the morning. Am I full? Do I feel like I am living authentically? Do I feel like my soul is nourished or am I, as Bilbo Baggins once stated, "like butter scraped over too much bread"?
In essence, this resolution deviates from its do more, be more cousin and insists on the value of doing less, listening more. And so I will. I will tune out the white noise that says I must be this or that in order to be considered a successful, healthy woman and instead listen to what brings me joy each moment of each day.
That is a resolution worth keeping.
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