As I wrap up my year of radical self-care, I find myself needing to recommit to those important practices I started last new year. In fact, it feels even more important to nurture wellness during the holiday season. Let's face it, sometimes life gets busy and it is tempting to let self-care rituals get put on the back burner while we take care of business. The holidays can magnify this with the increased demands to socialize, consume, and otherwise do more.
Don't get me wrong--I'm not a grinch! But I do think the dark side of the holidays is a sense of enforced cheer and manic consumerism. Think about all the times you are asked to buy more, commit to one more social activity, or overwork to get things done by the end of the year. Wouldn't it be great if we allowed ourselves to do less this season--and all year round?
And while things are merry and bright this time of year, there is also the shadow side of the solstice that asks us to turn inward and recharge for the new year: a facet of the holiday that often gets overlooked. At its best, this time of year is about celebrating the abundance around us and celebrating the renewal of light on the darkest day of the year; at worst, it can numb us out with overstimulation. By turning back to our self-care needs, we can better enjoy the season and all it has to offer. In honor of this, I give you five ways to make-self-care a priority this month.
1. Buy less. The holidays, whichever ones you celebrate, aren't about things or buying more stuff. They are about enjoying time with the ones you love and appreciating the fruits of your labor. My family and I decided a while ago not to stress about buying people gifts and instead often give homemade treats, thoughtful tokens, and generally focus on good food and good cheer. We also avoid going out on Black Friday aka Manic Consumerism Day and instead promote Buy Nothing Day.
Buying less is not only more environmentally and economically friendly, but also a great way to remove yourself from the fray of frantic shoppers. Take time to make your own gifts, if you have a crafty side, or buy local to support small businesses. Your neighborhood shops will have unique gift options in a more relaxed atmosphere conducive to a low and slow weekend afternoon of gift hunting. Any way you do it, give yourself permission to buy less and invest more time in relishing the simple pleasures of the season. It's where the magic is at.
2. Embrace hygge. This Danish word for coziness is the perfect term for this time of year. Light candles. Enjoy a quiet night by the fireside. Cook a hearty healthy meal. Remember that some of the most joyful times of the season are the quietest. My fondest solstice memories are those where I literally did nothing: gazed into the fire, sipped a cup of homemade holiday chai, took a nap on the couch. It's rare that we get this kind of time to rest, so why not make it a priority this season?
3. Pencil in quiet time. I love a good party and this season can make a get-together even more festive with glittery lights, fizzy drinks, and bright spirits all around. But I always make sure to leave some time for me. A lot of time. I need quiet as an introvert, time to unwind and space to lollygag, otherwise I never completely recharge. This season, give yourself permission to say no to social engagements. Block out an afternoon that's just for you. Gift yourself an evening at home doing nothing in particular. Give yourself lots of these things, often and with wild abandon.
4. Feel what you need to feel. Let's be real: the holidays can be utterly and completely sentimental and the Norman Rockwellesque depictions of heavenly happiness can be overwhelming...especially if you don't enjoy the holidays much yourself or have bad holiday memories. Even if you do enjoy the season, you don't have to be merry and bright 24/7. .Just be honest with yourself about what you are feeling. The solstice is about honoring the sun on the darkest night of the year, embracing the shadows as well as the light.
5. Stick to your self-care routine...including working out and eating right. This is perhaps the hardest, and most important, tip of all. I'm not saying give up your holiday treats, just make sure you carve out time for healthy meals and solid exercise. And don't get down on yourself for indulging, either. Enjoy yourself! But in a season that can feel overwhelming in its excess (more of that consumption for the sake of consumption), your self-care routine can be a delicious luxury that keeps you connected to yourself. It also prevents mindless overindulgence where you consume food and drink without thought or appreciation. Feast and be merry, then take a long walk in nature or sink into a quiet evening yoga with festive twinkle lights as a soothing background to your flow.
Remember that this season is about winter, about following the patterns of nature, including moving into a more introverted state while the land rests. We can find joy in the simple delights of the season that help us tune into the everyday magic around us. So this year, instead of getting caught up in the whirlwind of high consumerism, opt instead for a genuinely relaxing and festive holiday focused on renewal.
How do you make sure that you keep your self-care routine during this busy season? However you do it, I hope your season is full of much rest, relaxation, and love.
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